Beauty and Trust: A Deception of the Mind
It has been observed that we trust beautiful people more.
Research suggests that when a face looks balanced, well shaped, or attractive, our brain immediately forms a positive impression.
We believe that person will be good, honest, and trustworthy.
Experts have described this trend as the halo effect. They say that is, one quality creates the impression of other qualities as well.
For example, if someone has a nice smile, we assume that they also have a good heart.
If someone's eyes show confidence, we immediately believe they are truthful.
But in reality it is just an illusion of the mind.
Beauty and truth have no connection.
Several experiments have shown that people find average or normal looking faces more trustworthy.
That is, very beautiful or very unique faces are often considered more cunning or more deceitful.
This is a natural mental bias that is not easy to avoid.
But if we are aware of this, we can make better decisions.
A game of smiles, eyes and facial expressions
It is often said that a liar cannot look a liar in the eye.
Or if someone is smiling a lot, they are hiding something.
These things are certainly interesting, but there is little truth in them.
Research suggests that smiling is often a way to win the trust of others.
A study by Princeton University revealed that in just a tenth of a second, we judge whether a face is trustworthy or not.
That is, it is a momentary process that occurs not consciously but unconsciously.
This is why a person with a cheerful, gentle face often seems genuine to us, even if they are something else on the inside.
Even a liar can use a smile to show the truth of what he says.
That's why relying solely on impressions can be a mistake.
On the other hand, if part of someone's face is covered such as with a mask or goggles people immediately become suspicious.
Because the face is where we try to read emotions.
When they are not seen clearly, the mind becomes confused.
Why can't we recognize lies?
Most of us think we can detect lies immediately.
We think that if someone is looking away, sweating, or hesitating while talking, they are lying.
But according to experts, these estimates are often wrong.
A person may also show these same gestures out of nervousness or embarrassment, even if they are telling the truth.
That's why common indicators of lying are not considered reliable.
Scientists conducted several experiments in which people were asked to watch videos and tell who was lying.
The result was that their estimates were almost coincidental like two sides of the same coin.
What's more interesting is that people who were more confident that they could detect lies often performed worse.
That is, those who were more confident turned out to be more wrong.
Lying is not always bad.
You may be surprised to hear this, but the truth is that not every lie is bad. A person does not always lie for evil. Sometimes a lie is a soft blanket that protects relationships from breaking. Hides the wounds in the hearts, And makes the hardships of life easier for a while. We have all told a lie at some point in our lives that was not meant to harm but rather was out of love or goodwill. For example, a mother comforts her son by saying, Son, don't worry, everything will be fine even though she herself knows that the situation is difficult. But there is no deception in this mother's lie; there is love hidden in it. Similarly, when a friend tells another friend, "You look great, even if he is tired, weak This is not a lie, but its purpose is to encourage and cheer up. Sometimes we also tell small lies in the office or at home to keep the atmosphere pleasant. Like a colleague asking, How did you like the food I made? And you know that the taste is nothing special, but you still smile and say, It's very good! This lie is not meant to deceive anyone but to appreciate someone's hard work. According to psychologists, such a lie is called a social lie. This is a lie that maintains love, connection, and harmony between humans. It is not considered morally wrong because it does not harm anyone. Rather, this lie is a kind of social glue that keeps hearts together. Sometimes telling the truth can also be harmful. For example, if a person is sick and worried, and you tell him frankly that you are very sick, then it is painful even though it is true. At such a time, if you gently say, Don't worry, you are getting better, it is not a lie but a gift of encouragement. This is the lie that creates hope for one to live. Many times in life we realize that it is important to speak the truth. But it is not wise to speak every truth all the time and everywhere. Sometimes, feelings are more important than words. If a husband comforts his wife by saying, Your food is the best, or a teacher tells his student, You are very intelligent, so that he does not lose heart All these are lies that give a person courage, love, and confidence. These lies keep society soft. They teach us that a person lives not only with his mind but also with his heart. A lie that makes someone cry is bad. But a lie that brings a smile to someone's face is good. Scientists say that such lies are part of human evolution. They make a person socially strong. If we start speaking the bitter truth all the time, life will become unbearable. Therefore, nature has endowed man with the ability to sometimes soften the truth. so as not to cause a rift in relationships and to avoid heartbreak. That is, lying is not always evil but can also be a form of gentleness. This is the lie that unites hearts instead of breaking them. which heals instead of wounding them, and which makes humanity a little more human.
A Moral and Spiritual Angle
You may be surprised to hear this, but the truth is that not every lie is a sin, not every truth is goodness. Sometimes a person's intention becomes the real goodness. If there is goodness in the intention, then the words become soft, even if they are not completely true. This is the point where morality, love, and religion are intertwined. Intention is given the greatest importance in Islam. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Actions are judged by intentions (Bukhari and Muslim) That is, if your intention is to save someone from sorrow, to please someone, or to establish a relationship, then even if that statement is not apparently true, it is still not evil. For example, if a husband says to his wife, You are the most beautiful of all, even if the reality is different, this is not a lie but an expression of love. Or if a friend comforts a grieving friend by saying, Allah will make everything better, then this is a message of faith and hope, not deception. Similarly, in Christianity, mercy, gentleness, and love are considered more important than truth. Jesus said: Love your neighbor as yourself. This love sometimes becomes true not with false words but with a spirit of goodness. When a Christian mother tells her child that everything will be fine, she is not hiding the truth but is creating hope, and this is part of faith. In Buddhism, the principle of speaking the truth is very important, but even there, intention takes precedence. According to Buddhism, if something hurts or hurts someone’s heart, it is better to remain silent. If a lie in a soft tone can reduce someone’s suffering, then it is considered right according to the principle of karuna (compassion). This is why Buddhist philosophy says: Do not speak the truth that hurts others, and do not tell a lie that causes harm. Hinduism also has an interesting principle: According to this, if telling a lie saves someone's life, or purifies someone's heart, then it is not considered against dharma. The Hindu scriptures write: Satya (truth) is that which brings good. If the words are good, even if they are not true, they are also good. This teaching teaches us that the real truth is not what comes out of the tongue, but what is revealed by the intention. The message of all religions is that a person's words and actions depend on the intention. If your goal is to save someone from suffering, to care for a heart, or to maintain love, then that thing, even if it is a lie on the surface, becomes spiritually true. At many times in life, we tell such "compassionate lies" that connect hearts. For example, a mother says to her child, "You are the bravest," a teacher says to her student, You will succeed. These words are not always true, but they create a ray of hope. This is what saves a person from despair, and this is the real goodness. If everyone started speaking only the bitter truth, the world would be devoid of love. Sometimes, lies told with gentleness save the foundation of humanity. These are the lies that are truer than the truth, because they have pure intentions, good in the heart, and gentleness on the tongue.Conclusion: Truth and lies are not in the face, but in character.
Finally, understand one simple thing
You cannot judge a person's truthfulness or falsehood by their face.
Our mind is quick to believe appearances, but the real truth comes out with time, action, and behavior.
Whether it's a smiling face or silent eyes,
The real truth is hidden within it.
The best way to detect a lie is not the face, but the character of the person.
If we began to understand the attitudes of the heart and mind, not just the face, perhaps we would be less deceived and be able to make more informed decisions.
The conclusion is that to distinguish truth from falsehood, one should look at a person's actions and behavior, not at their face. This is the sign of true knowledge and awareness.
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